I'm intense...and it can be hard to find someone to talk to these things about...especially at our old school, where it really seemed anti GT...
but, even AFTER the school's testing and identification and seeing no change for my DD, the FIRST thing I did was question the school's assesment and get her privately evaluated. Even then, I don't have a firm answer, but I do have some indications.
We'll apply to DYS and maybe you should suggest her to do the same. Then she would HAVE to have the testing done and if the child qualifies, she will get an advocate, right? two birds, one stone...
honestly, what kind of person would move to be near a program you don't know for sure the kid can get into?
