From what you've described, the people you've dealt with aren't interested in meeting you're daughter's needs.
Actually, from everything that's gone on so far, it seems that they are interested in meeting her needs, it's just that the people in position to make decisions are completely unaware of what those needs are, and how they need to be met. The state requires a free and appropriate public education, but the contention is, what is appropriate? Hence the original question... do they even know what they're doing? All signs point to "No."
Earlier, I pointed out a number of misconceptions about the nature of giftedness that they brought up during the meeting. If you assume that they're all true, then their strategy makes perfect sense, and is the best fit for my daughter. The problem is that none of them are true. Thus, it falls to us to provide a preponderance of evidence... and even that may not be enough, because if everyone was able to accept validated evidence that challenges their own preconceptions, there'd be no such thing as a truther or a moonie.
