Grinity - can I hug you? I've been beating myself up that I never picked up on my daughter's ADD (although looking back I can see markers that were there, just never enough to cause concern) and that it took her seriously struggling with college to have it diagnosed. Your comments help explain to me how it was that she did ok in school - she didn't choose the AP or gifted classes and took one to two art classes each year of high school. She was never challenged in her classes; I didn't realize this would mean she wouldn't have as many issues with ADD, but that makes sense.

As to the wishing you'd done it sooner, I'll pull a chair up to that table as well. Had she been diagnosed and helped to learn strategies and what medication worked for her, she wouldn't be feeling like such a failure now.