TwinkleToes, I have found that knowledge is power in these situations. You need to arm yourself with as much data as you possible can and know the law in regards to appropriate education for your state. Our principal actually admitted that in the beginning, she and the teachers were scared of me because I knew so much more about the subject of giftedness (and in my case, twice-exceptionality) than any of them did. I actually prepared an entire binder of information on my son's testing data and relevant literature as to the best way to educate him, then made copies of each binder and distributed them at our first 504 meeting. It may have been intimidating, but it got the job done.
