Wow, I got all those same comments from my school's principal, it's like they went to the same principal training or something. Why do they all use the same inane comments?
Last year, I found my principal to be utterly UNhelpful, but the teachers were more helpful with 2 K teachers bluntly saying that my child would be bored in K. Fortunately I went through the district's Early Access (4y for K, 5y for 1st) program and my DD6 skipped K (that decision was out of the control of the principal). Not an easy decision for us parents but in terms of academics it was clear that would be for the best. And so far she loves school and is in 2nd G this year. I should clarify and say the Early Access program application for us started in the March before she would have been in K.
At this point, as uncomfortable as it feels, you should think about what ammunition you need to have her skip a grade, and probably do it sooner than later (or really hightail it out of there to another school maybe, although then it's the devil you know vs the devil you don't). I have a friend whose DS suffered through K bored out of his mind, and 1st G this year is no better and my friend is going crazy with trying to get any more challenging work given to him - although in all honesty I think if she hadn't redshirted him it would've been easier for everyone.
I hope you find a friend who you can talk to openly about this because it really would help. My school district's TAG office held "Parents of Gifted Students" type meetings for people to share experiences. It helps validate your feelings since others are most likely also going through the same kind of stuff. Maybe your district has something similar.
Good luck to you!
