I really need advice I think on what do you do when your gifted child "hides" their giftedness with poor performance/behavior? How do you get the teacher or school to look past that? I'm also stressed out at the idea of moving her to another school and that not working any better.
We are just starting to "jump through hoops" but so far, we have no "red flags" for learning "dis"abilities so I'm not getting much help or sympathy either. I was hoping I would come in and find a kid that sounded like mine, but everyone else's seem so much more compliant or willing to show that they have mastered something and moved on...
I can't quite tell from  your post if you've had educational testing done for her -- IQ/achievement.  If so, how did she score in processing and working memory?