Do some people actually get the NCSS to work without serious crying? When we tried it, we ended up with 24/7 inconsolability really fast. He also cried for hours at bedtimes, getting so upset he had trouble latching on when offered a boob... which was completely uncharacteristic. I didn't find the actual content of NCSS to be distinct from Ferber, from the child's perspective.
If your child cries then you are not doing it the right way... hence the title, LOL! And I have to disagree about it being indistinct from Ferber. It could not be more opposite to that way of thinking!! Whatit aims to do is help to move dependence on mommy for self-soothing to another object/routine. As with anything, it does not work for everyone and requires much patience. With any kind of challenge in child-rearing there are many different approaches. Our job as parents is to pick & choose what works with our own style, often via trial and error. I think that NCSS worked for us because we were absolutely at the end of our ropes and here was a lady with a similar outlook on parenting who had a step-by-step plan to help us work through our problem. When you are that sleep-deprived you are not capable of coherent thought and you often end up reacting out of frustration. Different things work for different families and I try desperately to stay out of 'cry it out' discussions with my peers as much as possible. With DD, letting her cry was just not an option. She spent 75% of the day crying due to colic and being put down occasionally so mommy could use the bathroom or cook a meal, it seemed cruel to move her up to 100% if I could prevent it.
