When I was in second grade, my teacher asked me if I wanted to help her clean off a table. I looked up from my book, said, "No." And went right back to reading. I was never big on external validation. Now, I'm more likely to say something like, "No, I don't want to vacuum the store, but I will!"

How old is she? Is she able to play by herself with toys on the floor while you watch? A typical baby or toddler will look at the toy, look at the parent, look at the toy, look at the parent...If your daughter just looks at the toy the whole time and ignores you, you might want to have her evaluated for autism--though at her age, they would be more likely to call it development delay.