I'm so sorry for your situation. It is so hard to see both the struggle for self control in an adverse environment and know that a single skill has such a high priority with the schools instead of being just 1 piece in the puzzle.
I am so glad to read the above posts since DS is almost 9 and his handwriting has not improved much even with OT and handwriting without tears. At least there is still hope. In fact, if he had to write the Columbus book his would look like most of the one's you described. A couple sloppy sentences with lots of errors. However, if they let him type the page, it would look much different lol.
I hope this school will continue to work with you. Any battles you can win here, will help you when you hit the new schools.
Good luck!
