Originally Posted by kickball
dd4 (our #2) is going soon. because of her challenging personality... we are being very careful not to imply we are doing anything fun after because I worry she may decide "she is done" before she actually is... figure I'll surprise her afterwards.

Oh oh. I didn't think of that "i'm done" mentality. Ugh. DS4 does that a lot, even when we're doing something I think is fun ("let's go, NOW!"). Well, I'll make sure he knows nothing fun until the whole thing is done. Rats.

The info on the the perfectionist issue is quite helpful too. Thank you and to everyone for giving concrete examples. I'm feeling like today is my lucky day! (incidentally, i can see that i'm going to have trouble in not becoming addicted to this forum.)