http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20100223134103AAiEPJvhttp://www.apa.org/pubs/journals/releases/dev-46-3-559.pdfHere's some thoughts that's helping me reframe how I think about these things. �I am not Mexican. �I did just move from living literally ten blocks from a bridge to Mexico to now living 45 minutes from there. �That's why i'd be googling these things.
Having been raised super-strict and never really reaping the rewards for it I wanna raise pure hippy kids. �The hubby wants better for them. �He wants me to watch the dog whisperer all the time so I can learn his philosophy. �Cesar Milan does explain a lot about how to control an animal's psychomotor over-excitability so they don't leave everybody else struggling and exhausted. �Obviously kids are not animals, but he means about how I should be pack leader, cool and calmly in control. �His actual tips don't work, ie "to control over-excitability wait until they use their nose, that shows they're in their right mind.". But his philosophy is useful for those of us who don't want to discipline because they're not doing anything wrong but it still bothers everybody else.
No, Dr. Phil. It's not working for me. �The boy's constantness still kicks my butt, love him dearly. �But I feel calm and empowered by watching the dog whisperer explain stuff. �Like the other day he told a guy "don't just pet the girlfriend's dog to keep him from being aggressive to you. �Pet him if you want to pet him, tell him to go over there if you don't want to pet him.".�
Feel very silly �posting this, but I lol'd sympathetically to several points in your post because it's many of the same unusual discipline issues I'm researching.
