hugs! Some of our boys are just 'like that.'
Keep the toothbrush at the supper table and have him brush on the spot right after he eats. If you use Tom's Toothpaste, he doesn't even have to rinse until he gets the idea himself.
Keep a journal about which activities of daily living are really bothering you the most, over and over, and then decide which ones to stop caring about and which ones to brainstorm with us over. If he doesn't wash his face there's no harm done. Can he still get away with 'sleeping in his tomorrow clothes?' Sweatpants and a tee shirt is a beautiful thing.
Praise him for ever evidence of 'being observant' he gives you, no matter how small. "Hey, you didn't trip over that raisin on the ground, you are observant!' If he balks, do it silently in your own mind. Sounds weird but they read us like books, sometimes.
If he doesn't type, then now is the time to hothouse it. Opens lots of cage doors.
I found that practicing to meditate was really important to my still-umbilically-emotionally connected boy.
Keep firm about not letting him go back to a bad situation. Sometimes if he'll join you in the kitchen to cook or bake 'his specialty item' it's easier to talk. Sometimes in long car rides. Keep praying.
Don't believe everything he says.
Love and More Love,
Grinity
