I don't know how to make myself respect someone, when I feel so strongly that they have to earn it, or at least not lose it.
I think the useful self-examination question I took from counseling was "Assume that the other guy is right. What do you do now?" Maybe it'll be helpful to you.
I've heard that before. It's a tough pill to swallow. To get along I do sometimes pretend the other person is right and acquiesce. A lot of smiling and nodding, no problem sir!
When I put it like that and reread, it looks like a very common problem. Everyone has to answer to people they don't like at some point or another. We should all continue to strive to improve ourselves.
