I think pseudo-gifted is a good term for some of these youngsters. I know that in the end, in the bigger picture it doesn't really matter (to me) whether Joe Blow or Jane Doe's kid is gifted or not. The competative parenting does. I admit, it does.
Along the lines of what gratefulmom mentioned, I really enjoy going to a place where bright is normal. Additionally, no one begins with the assumption that I've drilled facts into my kids, and I particularely enjoy the lack of competativeness of these boards. If I post something I don't need to justify or explain, or deal with the apparent contradictions that can seem to be there in a 2E child, and can deal more directly with whatever is on my mind.
Love it.
