That reminds me of this article and others that seem to describe 'selfish' behavior as sort of a defense against overstimulation of empathy.

One of the things I'm definitely wrestling with is determining what things are the things I want to do because they give me pleasure (intrinsically), and what things I want to do because it earns the approval of someone else and I have been conditioned to take pleasure in that (extrinsically).

What are your gifted weirdo needs? Mine might be summed up as: needing to learn new things, not wanting to solve the same problem over and over, doing things through non-linear thinking, and not needing others along for the ride. Makes me attractive when implementing things, but a bit of a liability in supporting them.