If your child is large for his age, it is not uncommon for others around him to treat him as an older child who is more emotionally more developed - I have seen this with a few children, and the frustrations that comes out of the child is very real when teachers expect him to be more mature purely based on size even when he was the youngest in the room.
Gifted or not, 3 years old is too young to expect to apply what seems reasonable logic to us on a child especially one that is quite sensitive and explosive. DD4 is our explosive one and when she is upset, reason is not what works. What we notice is that she will have a precise picture in her mind on how things will work and if even one piece is out of place, she just can not recover as easily.
There are no easy answers for that... sometimes it helps when we validate her feelings "I know it is so awful that this thing is not where you want it (broke/lost etc)" We have some hard fast rules - meltdowns at the table (where she is crying too hard to eat safely), we will remove her and let her get all the emotions out then talk with her. It has gotten easier as her motor skills allow her to control more of what she can do (she would rip up paper or rage when she could not control her drawing/painting motor skills and a mistake was made). We speculate that her mind is ahead of what her body can do and that just angers her when she runs into that wall (having an older brother seems to fuel her drive to catch up to what he can do, and cause rage when he can do things she can not do yet).
Last edited by notnafnaf; 02/17/17 09:45 AM.
