Welcome! I have a fantastic book selection for you! Another parent on this forum shared it with me and I'm happy to pass on the suggestion.
The Explosive Child - book
Livesinthebalance.org - corresponding website
The premise is "children do well if they can." However, when children have any developmental anomaly (and most people have or have had one at some point), they are being asked to do things they're not capable of, and when they try to express it, we move to punishment.
The Explosive Child is looking at predictable patterns of outbursts for underlying lagging skills, then works with the child for solutions.
(((Hugs))) to you! Hang in there, and post often ❤
