RRD, my post (my novel, ha) was in no way directed at you or anyone else, just general venting and sharing for those who understand how much energy these things drain out of us.
I felt so alone IRL. No one got it. I do second guess my parenting all the time, but there was a point when I simply could not wrap my head round any more why it should be in any way preferable to force medication into my child rather than just vegetables.
Have you noticed that people who are so convinced of their own parenting successes and others' parenting failures tend to have kids who, if you want them to do something, you just have to tell them to do it, and parenting simply becomes about telling your kid all the right things to do?

Hah. Borrow mine for a day.