Absolutely give age-appropriate answers (but still think bedtime isn't the best opportunity)! It's just important to bear in mind that asynchronous development can trick us into thinking that reasoning ability equals emotional resources. Each child is different. Mine wasn't capable of processing terrifying natural disasters via cognition at that age. He needed additional skills. YMMV
Yes, I agree. Daytime: cognitive work, assessing likelihood, explanations of how adults think about it ("I don't worry about that because I think..."). Night-time: staying calm and trying to shut the brain off.
