In general, if parents are greatly invested in the success of a child, that increases pressure.
Indeed. and I think you just hit on the meaning of "valued" in the title. For clarification, maybe the article should be renamed to "The Overinvested Parent." That's where the real problem is.
Yes, indeed-- which is ultimately why we opted
not to pursue the two 'best fit' options for DD for undergrad. It would have meant moving-- or parents living apart
for our DD. Too much pressure on her to "make good on" our investment there, both financial (of which she was keenly aware) and also by way of parental sacrifice (of which she is, if anything, even
more keenly aware).
She already feels like she "owes" us because I had to walk away from my career path for her (disability-related, though, not GT related)-- no need to add to that.
