I think you get better and better at tap dancing. Advocating well is art. The good news is that with such bright children, you can raise them to participate in their education as well. One of our most successful strategies was asking our DS to participate in the requests to make adjustments for his educational needs.
Teachers and administrators deal with parents all the time. They are used to setting boundaries and enforcing the standard. Statistically speaking, in a public school system the HG, EG, and PG child is something they probably do not encounter with frequency. Given time and exposure to the child, eventually they are as bewildered and intrigued by the unusual/ precocious abilities as the parents themselves. The key is to have them participate early and frequently with your child's needs. We have found that waiting for teachers to "catch on" misses an important window.
