Our DD (11) recently confirmed how much to push her. She told me "these are my goals, I need you to help me meet them... push me when I'm distracted and lazy." And I think that's a very good plan. Now when I push I can say "remember, you told me to" -- and she knows that's true.
I ask my high school son how much he wants me to push. How do you need my help? DO you want me to bug you everyday to practice? Can I find you a tutor? Do you need some ideas?
Sometimes he looks at me and grunts, others he tells me he's OK, and others to my surprise he tell me asks for help such as a reminders. He was the one who suggested I bug him every hour to help keep him on task while he studies for finals. And he wants that reminder to practice his instrument every day.
