She keeps saying she isn't learning, yet the school won't challenge her until they see "perfect" scores in all homework, etc.
Whoooo boy.
Consider that a "rough road ahead" sign. In neon.
If you are already seeing signs that your child is developing perfectionism (procrastination, task avoidance, self-handicapping, etc.) then READ WHAT YOU CAN about that phenomenon, get to know the different faces of perfectionism-- and do what you can to provide authentic challenges, recognizing that they may come OUTSIDE of school settings.
Be prepared to chart your own educational course. There aren't really very many educational settings intended for children like this. Many make
promises about it, of course-- but the reality is often quite different. I say that on both sides of the equation, actually-- the reality is that HG+ children are often not at all what educators THINK gifted children are like, and that such students and their parents often have expectations of group educational settings which are simply not feasible or realistic.
If you live in a town of 100,000 for example, understand that a PG child may have just 10 individuals within that town-- of ANY age-- to which s/he can relate well as a true peer. That's also no guarantee of shared
interests. Once you understand that, you begin to see why even magnet schools may not be well equipped for HG+ children in all but large urban environments.
It's not impossible, of course-- just improbable unless you find a real gem of a teacher/administrator team.
