CCN thank you so much for your great list - I will share it.

Polarbear - you explained yourself beautifully and gave me an 'aha' moment. While dd doesn't really do any academic extra curriculars other than music and the news ones we're looking at are things like drama which are more her bent, what we haven't touched on with her is your lovely idea of what she does have in common with her friends and how everyone is different. I love it!