Yup-- there really isn't any way to externally affect change in some people like this, squishys.
DD has been like that from infancy, as well. She has only two speeds when her agenda and yours operate at cross purposes:
a) you can't make me, and
b) hell-bent-for-leather--DUCK AND COVER.
DH and I have used the infamous line from Cool Hand Luke to describe her since she was a toddler--
What we've got. here... is.. FAILURE... to... COMMUNICATE...
Most of the time, she's angelic enough that nobody who hasn't seen that side of her would ever for a single second believe it. She never (not even at 9-22mo, in daycare) showed that side to outsiders, and seldom to anyone but DH and I.
