bumping this up for that fabulous, fabulous list from Iucounu.
Something's come up.
Not a happy moment when your 13yo tells you that she "doesn't feel proud" about anything she accomplishes, because that might make someone ELSE feel inadequate or bad, and because in her mind, pride = arrogance.
This resonated:
Stoeber, J., Kempe, T., & Keogh, E....ndividual Differences, 44(7), 1506-1516. Also true that this same 13yo has recently suggested that:
"Oh, wow-- this is hard" = "Something is wrong. I should stop." {sigh} So clearly, in addition to socially-prescribed perfectionism (as noted above), also significant self-oriented perfectionism.
I think what makes my DD an odd duck is a complete and total lack of other/outwardly-directed perfectionistic tendencies.
