Wyldkat, one of my dds had a classmate in K who was incontinent due to a medical condition, and the school's TA and nurse were both trained to change him. I believe that the ADA would guarantee he has a legal right to be in the program since it is a public school program, and personally I would argue that he should be provided with an aide by the school rather than you having to be responsible.
If you haven't looked yet, it might be worth looking at the yellow pages on the wrightslaw website (
www.wrightslaw.org) and seeing if there are any advocacy agencies in your area that could help with advice. Our area has both a legal advice services group and a parents' advocate group who will advise parents at no cost in situations like this.
Best wishes,
polarbear
