Maybe Lisa means a 'gifted application'?

Hmmm...maybe I'm off, but I would think the teacher would want to meet with the parents first before addressing ds? That way, you and teacher can come up with a constructive plan so, as you say, ds doesn't shut down and cooperate even LESS.

It's hard enough to be 5, let alone be 5, meeting with two adults, and perceiving that you have done something terribly wrong.