I have my kid charting his behavior on index cards in a recipe box. I put five things I like to see:
Nice Listener
Good Friend
Finished Work
Asked First
Ate Veggies
I wrote 1-5
1 at all
2 some
3 a lot
4 most of the time
5 every time
He circles how he did (on the days I remember to do it). The system is from that Nurtured Heart Workbook. It is positive discipline and it gives partial credit because you never really totally blow it, there's a little good on the worst day. It acknowledges that there really are more good things happening than bad. It looks like a waitresses comment card with the numbers 1-5 next to the desired behavior. You just circle your ratings for that day. I hope I'm showing him how to monitor his own goals and behavior in the future. There's no rewards attached to the cards. It's just a question.
