Mountainmom...do you think the teacher is being passive -aggressive like, "See...she's not as smart as you thought!"? I would be annoyed as it seems the teacher is going out of her way to demonstrate how "average" dd is.

I completey understand hollow promises of differentiation. My ds is in K...snf I know our school does EM (of course, they're counting in ds' class still). My ds is a very mathy kid, do I'm interested at the responses here. He does like to find multiple ways to a solution - maybe that will help him?