herenow, I saw this quite recently at an informal event (a tour of an educational attraction) where my DD was the only girl among some assertive boys. The boys were all up in the front shouting out answers and very excited. DD, in the back, raised her hand every time but was called on almost never, because the (male--and wonderful in all other ways) guide always simply responded to the boys who shouted out. When I mentioned this to my husband and my friend, who has a boy, my husband had noticed but my friend had not.

This was rather more poignant to me because I know that she IS a shouter-outer by nature and has been extensively and successfully trained this year NOT to do it.

Also, thank you for the compliment. smile