I recently spoke to Gifted Center in Albany and they said the worst thing I could possibly do is get him mislabled as ADHD and not bringing out his giftedness with it and was referred to this lady that is assessing his other test scores now for possible Dyslexia DX.
Ok, so you are testing the Dyslexia. I don't think that you 'exactly' heard the person you spoke with at the Gifted Center. Or if you did, I disagree.
Here's how I would state it -
Yes, if the ADHD is there, deal with it.
Yes, Look for 'co-morbid' conditions, such as Dyslexia, hearing problems, CAPD, vision problems, vision coordination problems (golly I forgot what the name is)
Yes, get to know his learning style and make the most of his giftedness.
And no - don't let his sit around quitly in a schoolroom with a perscription and extra time and still never having a chance to shine. If taking the medication allows him to learn while he is in school - then great, if not, you homeschool him. That's not a reason to be afraid of ADHD diagnosis if it is part of his picture.\
Situations can be very complicated, and you are moving forward by getting the dyslexia checked. You can't fix this in one day or one week or one month - just keep taking steps, ok?
It isn't that the schools 'don't care' - it is that the folks there have been taught that there are certian developmental paths that kids follow. And most kids do indeed follow the 'normal' paths. But some kids don't. Those kids are few enough that they are easy to blame and ignore. Human being wouldn't have survive to this day if every single morning every person questioned everything - this is the way we are. But once in a while a parent or a teacher will suddenly look at a child freshly and see the actual child even if that child is at a really different place. It is a beautiful thing, but don't get hung up on blaming a system that works well for lots and lots of kids. I do look forward to the day when the tools of examining what a child's readiness level become more sophisticated and all teachers become skilled at using these tools and creating individualized teaching for every child.
Best Wishes,
Grinity