My 4.5yr old son recently started Kindergarten and the nightmare that I lived at the beginning of his pre-school year is starting to re-surface. Last year my son clearly was displaying signs if extreme defiance and physical altercation at school. Everyday I received the dreaded phone call from school telling me how my son is throwing chairs and refuses to listen, has pushed a child and seems extremely aggressive in behavior. After going thru 3 private pre-schools in a span of 6 weeks I knew there was something clearly going on within my son that needed help. I applied for public UPK and requested a CPSE meeting. The evaluation found my son to have an extremely high IQ (which I already assumed) and the BASC results came back with him having clinically significant aggression and defiance (ODD). The CPSE told me he would not qualify for services but I fought and fought for a SEIT teacher to be with him at school for a few hours a day to observe and assist my son with his aggression. Fast forward to the end of last school year and he finished off Pre-K with a bang! The top of his class and the apple of his teachers eye (clearly different from the start). The summer was great for my son at camp..no aggressive behavior at all was present. 2 weeks ago he starts at a private school in New Rochelle, NY and his aggressive alongside defiant behavior is back. I immediately went to the Bd. of Ed to seek services for him like he had in pre-school which helped him tremendously. But since this is a private school, they told me yesterday in a meeting with his teacher and Headmaster that they don't think they are equipped to handle him and feel like he should be in a setting like a public school where they can help him. His teacher than said "and you don't want the other parents to start talking about you and your son and why he receive special services." I was absolutely appalled. The Headmaster said he will more than kick him out oif the school but to keep him home on Monday so he can "think about it". What do I do? Where can I go? I went to my local bd of ed to get the papers to register him for public school Kindergarten but I don't want him to be "dumbed down" or set back by not being able to learn at the speed and capacity that he is able. I feel like this school is giving up on an amazing little boy but I know as his mom I must fight for his education. Oh I forgot to mention that the Headmaster said that my son would be able to come back in the 3rd or 4th grade because he's sure his reading tests will be superior and get the school a blue ribbon. I looked at him with pure disgust!
