I would think that someone in your shoes who prepped for the CogAT was acting in their child's best interest. Sometimes you can change 'city hall' and sometimes you can't. I agree that the system stinks.
But I don't want to do that. I may be a stickler for rules, but I don't think that it is a good message to send my child that I am willing to help her "cheat" on an ability test. It would lead her to believe that all I cared about was her being smart enough to get into a program.
I guess that I just don't view the CogAT as equivalent to an IQ test given our experience and anecdotal things that I've heard about the correlation btwn CogAT and IQ scores not being that great once you start moving away from average.
I do agree that the IAS takes more into consideraton than IQ and, like Dottie, I wouldn't be too keen on skipping a MG kid with lower than gifted achievement scores. I have no interest in skipping dd#2 for that reason -- she doesn't consistently perform like a gifted child although sometime she just blows us away. There are, of course, many other reasons we don't want to go that route for her. We've just seen the other parts of the IAS manipulated by parents locally as well and taking out the need for a controlled ability test makes it that much more manipulatable IMHO. Parents have signed their kids up for a bunch of extracurricular activities at the last minute to get the points for being involved in a bunch of stuff, etc.
I really shouldn't get myself bothered about people messing around with things that ultimately aren't affecting me and my kids, though!