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My guess is that if you leave him there much more, he may start treating them like 'incompetent co-workers' and that isn't really what anyone was hoping for when they wanted him to learn social skills, was it?
Grimity

My son (now 7) had a lot of issues in preschool. I wish I would have had your insight at the time. I just thought he was acting up because we had adopted two chrystal-meth kids who needed a lot of extra attention at the time.

I remember his teacher telling me that she was no longer going to send him to the office, because he would charm the principal and come back to class with a sticker. She also said the principal thought she was crazy (always complaining about my son's behavior). For the rest of the year, she basically ignored him. He learned absolutely nothing.

Once he started Kindergarten, it was obvious that something was off because he mastered the curriculum in about a week, and then the real behavioral problems started. We are now homeschooling and he is doing GREAT.

You are doing the right thing investigating your son's issues. I believe it is never too early to start nuturing the special needs of a gifted child. I feel like my son would have been spared a lot of pain if I had been a little quicker to figure out what was wrong during preschool.

Good luck to you and your family.

wow movingup you must have a lot of love in u! The sad thing is that our little ones who are 'learning nothing' academically are learning many life lessons that need to be painfully untaught later if possible.

Grinity, we have signed a contract for one year. And we are going to meet the teacher. Now the thing is , how should we go about finding that perfect school for him? I am contemplating on quitting my job but the money is real good, hence the dilemna. Other thing we have been wondering is how to best advocate in his interest? Should we tell what all he can do - we are not sure how are they going to take it. His teacher last year kep telling me that despite of being a busy mom I work so much on his skills when I kept telling her that I don't. She was just not ready to believe. Do you think a testing is in order.

Thanks for sharing your story wondermom. I hope we can look back later and think that we did right to DS4. His school does not have a gifted coordinator but we will try to convince them to make some accodomations in reading and math.

BSmom, DS4 likes to play with other kids older as well as same age, he is very social that way and other kids like him too. May be thats why he says he likes the school. He is very athletic and loves recess and PE.

Movingup, after reading all the responses, we are determined to try the best to advocate for his needs. I know its important for him to learn that world is not fair but it can wait.

I had DD (now 5) tested when she was 3 because of problems in preschool. I was fairly confident that she had a high IQ but I didn't want to be one of "those" moms. Once I confirmed what the issue was, I was able to deal with her and the school in a much more useful way. It is wonderful but also challenging to have a HG child. The earlier you start addressing their needs, the better.

I was fearing this moment though a part of me was saying that this would not happen, not to my happy, outgoing, friendly kid but it did. He said today that he doesn't want to go to school anymore. God knows whats in store for us.

Joys,
What was going to school like for you? For me, when my DS13 started school, a flood of negative memories seemed poised to engulf me at any moments.

I'm assuminging that you do know about

http://www.hoagiesgifted.org/dabrowski.htm

but I'm sending along this link, just in case you haven't heard. We can be very intense!

Smiles,
Grinity

Thanks for the info Grinity, I do not have much knowledge about OE's so it was very useful.

I enjoyed school because I always scored well without much effort. This continued in college and happens at my job as well:) too much praise for myself so let me tell you that all my family thinks that I am a lazy person that is I don't work-hard, ah, well:)

My dad used to buy lots of books for me. Actually everyone in my family used to and they still do. Majority of the gifts I receive are books and that keeps me happy:)

DS is different though, he is very athletic, impatient and perfectionist like his Dad, his Dad never had problems in school, he is gifted too but he started school late so I guess that makes a difference.

I just had to chime in on this one! We just had our DS4 gifted tested (he is almost 5 and is in pre-K), and your story was eerily familiar to me. We actually switched him to a Montessori preschool in January and it was the answer to our prayers.

Since there is a self-contained gifted program in our public school district, I called and spoke with the gifted ed director twice prior to having him gifted tested. She did everything she could to convince me that our local school would do plenty to support him and that the self-contained was for the "very" gifted who wouldn't do well in a typical classroom. I could not for the life of me figure out why she assumed he isn't higly gifted.

Fast forward a few weeks, we had him tested and sent her his scores. She personally called me and basically tried to talk me into the self-contained program even though it is a much longer drive for us. Point being, I was completely blown-off until I had the test scores in hand. It was money well spent!

Good luck to you!