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BassetLover,

i wished I had this forum years ago. Our son was extremely sensitive which made raising him very difficult. The stress he'd have permeated the atmosphere. It takes finesse, I've learned, to soften the repercussions on the rest of the family. Hissy fits abounded over things the other two boys would overlook. For ex a circus that was "too loud." It freaked him out. My husb. had to leave with all three kids. Later, because he had the wrong placement and bullying, he developed obsessions about restaurants being contaminated and that ruined a few outings for the other 2. Other sensitivities plagued some other outings and holidays, as well. Through God's grace, they are young adults and all 3 are close buddies. The other two understand their brother's condition. He is now a 27 yr. old prof. and delightful company.

My DD6 is especially sensitive to fear. Last year they learned about spiders in K and she cried heself to sleep for a week. And last week she had a bad dream that took her several nights to recover from.
The good news about my sensitive kid is disipline, all it takes is a dirty look and she tears up.
Wish that trick would work on my DS2!

Now that is an interesting question to ponder. I recently responded to Dr. Ruf's blog about eating disorders(Link to Blog) because after reading it, I thought "wow", that WAS me (only I didn't have an actual eating disorder, but close)... eating disorders tend to be higher in those girls (and boys) who have issues with anxiety, OCD, depression, etc... all of which are more common in gifted kids with those overexcitabilities.
And while I can't answer your question myself, I wouldn't be surprised if there is one.

I have a sensitive DD10 and she has always been this way. Esp. when it comes to animals and nature. We recently went to an animal shelter to adopt a pet rabbit. She spent a long time picking the right rabbit for us and then explaining the others why they weren't picked and hoped they would have a family soon. She also helped another family pick a cat and "interpreted" the cat's behavior to them.

Now with puberty approaching, I don't know how we are going to manage the sensitivity and intensities. Gets harder every year.

Jen

Bassetlover, I just wanted to add an observation that your DD seems to be exceptionally empathetic, as opposed to sensitive to noises, light, smells and tactile things. I have no words of wisdom on how to handle this, but just wanted to say that can be a powerful gift which may help her and others in the future. There must be a way to manage it without it crippling her. (With adults, something called Dialectical Behavior Therapy, which borrows heavily from mindfulness training, helps a lot.) All the best for your special DD ~

Dr. Webb wrote a good article about this:
http://www.sengifted.org/articles_counseling/Webb_ExistentialDepressionInGiftedIndividuals.shtml

Honestly, all 4 of us are very sensitive. My daughter is the most sensitive, at least right now. She totally reminds me of myself when I was a child. I feel like she's being introduced to much better coping skills than I ever had.

I wouldn't be surprised if there was a strong correlation between being GT and depression (or anxiety, OCD, etc). Actually, this is part of the reason I feel so strongly about finding an educational fit that works for my kids. I was at least somewhat depressed my entire elementary school career. It's about being happy and finding peers and positive outlets to enjoy.

I highly recommend the book "'Mellow Out' They Say. If I Only Could. Intensities and Sensitivities of the Young and Bright" by Michael M. Piechowski, Ph.D. It's an in-depth look at all of Dabrowski's "overexcitabilites." I tend to go back and review different parts of that book whenever my girls' sensitivities start driving me batty...

I think she fits a bit of each of the overexitabilities. She recently told me that she gets the "fingers on the chalkboard" feeling very frequently/sometimes more than once a day. Intellectual- I think you all would understand this one. Imagination- cried because she had to go to a sleepover, and told me it was because she would not get to think(right before be), which she apparently does for hours before going to sleep at night. Emotional- what I already mentioned, her compassion, etc. And lastly Psychometer- we still have not ruled out ADHD, she is a percussionist at heart, always tapping her foot or hands and is really competitive.

This could be anxiety too, not just ADHD... I DS5 doing this more when he's nervous about something. I clench my teeth and have to move as well. Though I have an official ADD diagnosis myself (though I still think it's WRONG, but my meds have helped relieve anxiety, so...).

Anywho, DS5 fits more than one as well.