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LOL Shari!

Hehe, denial. HG+, really? Goodness, what to do with THAT? Kinda feels like someone just turned on a very bright light in a very dark room and we have to come out from under our very dark covers, LOL!

I imagine I'll be asking lots of questions....or welcoming advice or pointings in the right direction....

Do you ever not really talk about your kids and what's going on with them? It's just a gut feeling, but alot of times we don't talk about any of this....family and *close* friends, sure. But when friends start talking about school and what's going on with their kids, we don't chime in because our experiences aren't really similar. Is that common?

yes!

Yes! My coworker has 2 kids as well, both are a year older than each of my two. I once told her that DS5 was reading, and she replied that her DD6 read too - she knew all of her sight words.

After that I just talk about DD5's baseball or when we have a bad night (both kids waking up with bad dreams or whatever).

My daughter has very similar scores as well.

Verbal Comp - 136
Perceptual Reasoning - 131
Working Memory - 141
Processing Speed - 118
Full Scale - 140

We have a meeting scheduled with the school, psychologist, et al in a couple weeks.

I, too, am in GT denial. Our psychologist keeps telling us that our DD6 is REALLY smart. He doesn't say "wicked smart" but uses a more PG-13 term -- "blanking" smart .



For me, that's just the way my DD has always been. I knew she was smart, but now I have others telling me the scope of her "smartness"
-- Don't you wish we could have all of our kids meet?

Yes!!!

Although sometimes my in-laws kids drive me nuts and I want to brag about how "wonderful" my child is. But I don't.

Welcome to the board JDAx3. Your son sounds wonderful and I look forward to reading more about him as well as the process you will be going through. And I think it is safe to say a lot of us are going through or have been through GT denial. I have a DD 2 1/2 year old and still have my days of denial. You will find that there are a few of us on here with toddlers and we could not shake the differences we saw with our children, hence discovering this board.

And for your question about not really sharing about your child with others, we all do it. Some to the point of hiding their abilities. (Okay, I was talking about me on that last statement.) But I am getting better. Yesterday at DD dance class she found a dinosaur little figure in the play toys and came over with it. 'Look mommy an alligator.' She thought about it and then said, 'What is this?' Which I replied a dinosaur. 'Oh, a dinosaur.' and off she was playing talking about the dinosaur and what it was doing. One mom was shocked about her pronunciation. I could have just said thank you but instead I said she has been speaking that way forever. I don't know if she believed me, but it really doesn't matter. The point is I am not going to hide it anymore. I don't feel like I need to go into details b/c that seems pushy to me but I won't brush it under the rug. And I am at the start of being around other moms.

Hi JDAx3! You posted on the other thread that I wrote about my DS on so I came to look for you! I think we are in a similar situation and I'm so happy you're here!

I actually dropped out of the PTO meetings due to nosy parents coming up to me and asking questions. I stopped volunteering at the school too. I have no idea how they knew what my son was doing, and after the grade skip mid-year, well, forget it!

It doesn't help that we are required to register by age for baseball too...all the mothers were so impressed when DS wrote his name in cursive in his ball cap. He was playing with K and 1st graders. Then I look like the pushy, hot-housing Mom teaching my kid cursive because I don't want to ruffle feathers mentioning the grade skip.

Hopefully we'll get lots of good advice. It's so comforting to know there's someone else out there with a very bright little boy!

JDAx3 -
One of the things it means is that the stuff that works for 2/3rd of gifted kids may leave your son uninspired. This isn't his fault, it just is the way things are. It means that many people who run gifted programs will still not 'get' him, because he will be much more similar to MG kids who are a year or two older than he will be to MG kids his same age.

It means that it's up to you to try to set up situations where he can learn as fast and as deeply and as complicated as comes naturally to him. This is a tall order.

This means that spending time with kids his own age might be very satisfying, or very frustrating, and that it isn't his fault.

Love and More Love,
Grinity

It's funny that you phrased it as people wouldn't 'get' him. That's kinda how we've always described it. He's had good teachers who did what they could within what was available, but prior to this testing we had no idea the degree we were working with.

It's definitely challenging to find the right academic setting along with the proper social setting for him. Sometimes, we're not sure what his peer group is and where he fits in best all the way around. Hopefully, as I become more knowledgeable about all of this, I'll be better able to see that he gets what he needs.

Thanks.