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What if DS could throw a baseball 100 yards or score at will in soccer? And loved the game?

What would you do then?

Not take him to camps where he could be with other top junior players and not move into a school district or area where he could advance his skill?

What if DS was a great artist or dancer? He'd be in classes with older kids.

I suppose you could have one night a week where DS makes dinner. If he is like most kids, he loves macaroni and cheese and its easy to fix as well. That could be his macaroni art!!!




Good luck!!

Austin,

It would take you about 12 hrs to drive to my house. Care to come and lend your views?? ROFL!!!

I was like that. DH wanted to accelerate DS6 when he was in preschool and I thought he was crazy. I am now on board and have accepted DS's intellectual differences. On the other hand, DH thought public school would be fine. He now accepts DS6's emotional differences. He is now on board. It's been quite a journey for us thus far!

One thing that you could do is have your partner work with your child, academically. You could have her do some workbooks for her own age group. When she sees how your child responds, doesn't pay attention, gets an attitude or whatever it is that he does, it might be easier to connect the dots to how doing age-level work would play out in the classroom. Just a thought.

I find this so confusing - isn't he just going to be proceding normally into the next years class with the same kids he is in subject acceleration with now? Sometimes it really matters how you word things. I really think that the acceleration has already occured, and next year 'just' legitimises it - yes?

Which of course is scary, but not as scary as a 1st grader finishing first in the spring, and returning to 5th in the fall, yes?

An update....

Miracle of miracles! DP is now on board. Wasn't anything I said or had her read. It was DS. Our schools are going through SBA testing this week, so DS is playing hookey. He can't go to any of his pullouts and spending the whole day in K is worthless so I told him he can stay home.

Yesterday he went to the office with DP and they had a conversation. DS asked DP how much longer he needs to go to school. He told her that although he likes everyone, he hasn't learned anything new and can't see the point of continuing. He told her he learns more at home and wants to stay home except for Algebra (actually pre-algebra). He doesn't understand that you can't go to school for one class.

DP called me and told me what he'd said and said she's on board with whatever kind of skipping/accelerating we need to do. Just like that! I wish they'd have had this conversation a month ago! So now the school and DP are on board, we just have to sell it to the district. They've never done a multi-grade skip and no one at the school is sure how the idea is going to be received. Keep your fingers crossed!

What good news Shari!!!

Yay! How funny how quickly our little ones comments can change things. You should have coached him and put him to work sooner, LOL. Save yourself all the stress.

If only he had advocated for himself sooner! It would have saved me alot of headaches. I'll have to keep that tactic in mind for the future.

Ahh Shari,
I'm so glad to hear it. I also noticed that my DS was willing to 'share' that side of himself with me sooner than with DH, but when he finally did, DH really came around to my way of seeing things.

You've probably been laying the foundation for this moment for months...Well Done!
Grinity

Good.