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Dear Ones,
Josh, since you stopped by, will you talk some about my absolute favorite topic: Non-Linear Thinkers.

I was feeling weird today, because sometimes it seems that I 'see' things that no one else actually sees. (TV reference comming) As Claire Bennett would say, 'What a dopey superpower!'

I'm also trying to practice giving my 12 year old son some 'emotional space.' He's going to a new school, and has a whole bunch of friends (Yeah!) and I never set eyes on a single one of them. Any tips on 'backing off' when up until now one has been the 'life preserver' for a high-need kid?

I do have a full time job, local friends, cyber friends and a DH, but when it comes right down to it, most of them are in shades of grey, while DS is in technicolor. There, I said it. I'm gifted and prone to exaggerating to make a point - so take it with a grain of salt, ok?

Your favorite Systems-thinking superhero,
Grinity

I love Heroes! My kids have always been obsessed with superpowers ("Mom, if you could have one superpower, what would it be?"--One teacher answered, "The power to eat as much as I want and never gain weight"...I thought that was funny. I personally like emotional healing power--to help myself and others).

Anyway! Giving space has been difficult. At least mine still are dependent on me for rides everywhere. I put news or announcement clippings on my oldest's desk, notes, all kinds of stuff. He knows I think about him and give him choices. Then I have a great excuse to periodically say we need to get together to make some decisions or discuss.

DS12 actually thanked me recently, for the thought I put into him. I think I was offering to put his music for school into a binder that struck me as particularly apt. It was cool because I was expecting a 'leave me alone' and for sure he didn't want to follow my suggestion. But it did tip me off that I was WAY more interested in 'physical organization of the environment' than he was, and should back off.

((shrugs))
Grinity

I think I am one of the non-linear parents Josh was "speaking" to in the other post.

However, me thinks we are outnumbered. I believe as a non-linear unconventional thinker I have to make a lot of concessions in order to give my children exposure to systematic thinking, which I think is more typical.

Then they may accept or reject and live accordingly when they are old enough to make that decision.

Your last post reminded me of me and my mother Grinity, with me as your son and you as my mother. Wow that was weird!

Hi Neato,
I feel like I've lived in the houses of most of you - really. And that SO isn't how I feel most of the time....
grins!