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I think those getting hysterical or offended need to get a grip.

It's very easy to share what one believes without misleading.

"Suspected PG" √

"I think my child could be PG" √

"My child's results say he is MG, but I can't shake the feeling it'a closer to PG" √

*Looks at MG results* "My child is PG" x

Oh, but wait. It's suggested that I'm insecure, so I better agree. Everyone is PG!

And I think some of the touchiness is that it reminds us a lot of "all children are gifted", "we can't ability group because it is elistist", "your child's test results mean nothing to me". We don't expect to hear that here whatever LOG our children are.

I don't claim my HG kid is PG. I find it hard to believe my PG one is though and not being in the US there is nowhere else to go.

It is difficult to imagine that a person has an expectation of privacy when posting publicly on the internet. This was discussed recently on another thread. Here is one post to raise awareness.

Board rules provide guidelines:
Absolutely, posters need to decide for themselves how to weigh the information which others post.

No one needs to state their child's LOG, but if they choose to, it may be best to not overstate it.

I believe encouraging honesty is intended to keep this a safe place.

Many posts show the forum still serves that function.

There are always requests for information, and topics tend to repeat with some regularity. Please jump in at any time to provide help!

I believe all flavors of gifted are accepted on this board, and offer as proof: One need not embellish their child's intellectual gifts to be accepted. Please invite your friends to also help answer posts on the forums, if they are not doing so already.

Which boards are you suggesting?

My point exactly. Why change any other letter to a P before posting?

While it may not seem like an invasion of privacy to me, it is nevertheless difficult to believe that other posters would comb through one's posting history to attempt to refute a statement.

I think many find it a little creepy when another poster asks you if your child tested PG, you answer that they did, then said poster goes through your posting history and essentially says, "No, actually he didn't. You told us this from 3 years ago, then this from 2 years ago, then you said this last month." Such actions invoke feelings of being interrogated. You may say that this is an all-inclusive community, but if your actions make others feel like they're being interrogated, that is the opposite of welcoming. You could also say that you're not responsible for how other people feel as a result of your actions, but that seems to indicate that you don't care.

After this topic, I'm tempted to go back and delete most everything I've said on this forum as well.

I also advise being cognizant of one's own public social media presence, their children's public social media presence, and their children's friends' social media presence.

In this age of data collection, including
- whether a student is identified gifted,
- facebook page,
- other web accounts,
people may be wise to carefully consider what they post.

Some may say it is wise to seek clarification and understanding through source documents.

When choosing to edit and/or delete old posts, posters may wish to consider what is a beneficial contribution to others on the forum ongoing, and what may have been largely/solely for a temporary purpose and/or for their own personal benefit. Posters may also wish to consider the possible impact on their grown children who may read these forums in the future.

Friendly reminder to everyone: anything and everything you post here can be picked up by web crawlers (e.g. spiders) and archived permanently. Sites like the Wayback Machine are public repositories designed to archive as much of the public web as possible. I mentioned once before that I was able to find messages there that had been deleted by a user here.

Bottom line, and this is what I tell my kids: once you post something online or message/email it, you've lost control of it. Don't post, email, or message anything that you wouldn't want to see published on the front page of the newspaper.

This is a public forum. The small community of active members here may make it seem intimate or make it seem like it's reasonable to post personal information and request that others not refer to it or re-post it. Neither of these ideas is true. And even if people here agree not to refer to your old messages, there's nothing to stop any of the other of billions of web users from doing that. If you don't like the idea of someone going back through your old messages, don't post them to begin with.

It's honestly a bit surprising to me to see adults who don't seem to fully understand the idea that everything posted online is public, for the whole world to see and refer to. And maybe repost. My DH and I emphasize this point repeatedly with our kids. The idea needs to be second nature if they're going to avoid being taken advantage of.

I fully understand the idea that everything posted online is public. I am ashamed of nothing that I have posted on this public forum, and I have kept my identity and the identity of my family hidden. (Did you actually think my name is George C? )

However, if people here on this forum are going to hold the words I have said years ago over my head and call it relevant, I don't see why I should make it easy for them to access it. Of course it's not impossible; it's simply harder.

Why care so much when they do?

Surely, as an assumed gifted person yourself, you must understand what it's like: the investigative nature, being pedantic, to sense of injustice. I know I feel these things.

I know I enjoy going through past post and noticing those whose kids' ages and scores change over time. Someone wants their child to be hunger and therefore more achieving; or someone is suddenly more gifted because they chose tongo by the GAI incorrectly. It's interesting.

There's no laws to saw that no one can use the term "PG"; it would just be nice if we could just stick to decency and not mislead each other when we're meant to be in a safe place and can be quite intimate, sometimes.

I have my own enrichment club for PG kids. I deal with parents trying to deceive quite often. It's frustrating trying to find friends for my kids when they are such outsiders from the average community and the gifted community.

So, the question is: why doesn't it bother you?

I have read hundreds of previous posts by many posters here over the years. I always use the advanced search to look up things.
For me it has been a treasure trove of information.