Urgh!
Sounds like the younger one of my two nephews. They are both very bright but the younger one has a pronounced defiant streak. They live in Brooklyn and he steadfastly refused to cooperate during the NYC pre-school testing so is not in any GT programming at all.
The other is a people pleaser so guess which one is in the NYC gifted program?
Personally, I believe that the younger one is the brighter (non verbally, at least and he has an innate mechanical aptitude) based on my observations of him (completely unqualified professionally, of course) but that's life.
