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I just did it again. I have become a mini expert on TS and have been peppering my son's psych with questions trying to get answers to help my DS who may have TS. He just (nicely) told me I am exhausting him, and he said that is saying a lot. Now I feel bad.

I have that same feeling I had as a kid, when I was trying to understand something and people told me that I needed to stop, that I was a problem because I asked too many questions. This is probably something I need to deal with, as it drives people crazy. But it seems to be a personality characteristic that I can't seem to change. There are no brakes.

Hugs.

Thanks I was just about to delete this post, because well, I hate feeling sorry for myself. But the thing that learning about giftedness has helped with the most is that this part of me isn't a character flaw, it is hardwired, but sometimes it still feels like it is a character flaw -

Some may say there is no such thing as too many questions, only too many people who are not comfortable with questions which tap the limits of their areas of expertise (and who do not wish to admit it).

One might expect that an experienced psych (or any professional) would have a factsheet to hand out, including lists of helpful resources. One might also expect a psych (or any compassionate human being employed in serving others) to provide affirmation such as the simple statement, "That's a good question".

Hugs to you. To stay positive and not let the psych's exhaustion block you from your mission to understand, help, and support your child, you may wish to conduct web searches and keep a document with lists of the links you find, including a short synopsis of the nuggets of wisdom from each.

Find a message board community that is up-to-date and pretty closely aligned with current research in the field. They'll entertain a lot more questions, and you'll get the kind of feedback (plurality, an array of possibilities) that gifties LOVE.

HK, that is a great idea - I think that's exactly the issue. I like to circle and look at all the possibilities until one sort of "clicks into place" and I know I've solved the puzzle and figured it out.

Just quick reply to lend support. Also - what is "TS"?

Hi suevv- thanks, appreciated

TS = Tourette Syndrome

Sent you a PM, LAF.

LAF, I know exactly what you're saying. I've been researching like a crazy woman for months trying to figure out my kids' needs and how to support them. Even DH thinks I'm obsessed and spending way too much time on it (but he's not the research-y type. He decides, and moves on. I need to find out everything possible so I have all the evidence I can to make a decision). (This is why I am not a CEO )

This is how I approach everything in life though - and actually, turning into an instant expert on topic X and trying to pull all the pieces together in some larger, more meaningful context is kinda how I make my living. So yes, it's a bit exhausting to those around us at times. But we are who we are, and I see enormous strength in it, too. So hugs, and don't get down on yourself. I have yet to meet a person whose greatest weakness is not also among their greatest strengths.

And thank goodness for this board so we have somewhere supportive to go with all those questions!

P.S. And coincidentally, TS is high up my current research list (but haven't quite formulated my questions for the board yet . DS10 has been tic-ing like crazy since school started up, kinda freaking me out, though I know it's not uncommon. Were there critical issues that took you to seeing the need for TS assessment?