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Based on what you've presented sans existing issues, I find the neuropsych's suggestion ethically suspect.

I would say no, too. If it ain't broke, don't fix it. My spidey-sense tells me the biggest reason to do all this testing is so the neuropsych gets paid.

The idea that an involved parent can't get an idea of their child's abilities without advanced testing is ludicrous.

Well, I remember some concerning issues with the DD's daughter in the past, so it could be that the neuropsych is harking back to those and feeling like the current situation may be a temporary peace? It does seem odd, though.

I wonder if he is just very interested in her? Sometimes some children evoke strong interest from adults. Our DD was treated a bit like a wacky curiosity by her preschool teachers, who urged us to test her (at age 3) I think at least in part to satisfy their own curiosity. They had no financial motive at all to suggest it. (We did not do this. She now is not nearly so noticeable.) Similarly, staff are curious about my DS at his current school--I know he has been an object of conversation among the teachers generally and I honestly wouldn't be surprised if someone wanted to test him to a high ceiling just to see what he could do.

Oh, but wait--the pro bono suggestion has mysteriously not been brought up again? Hmm.

Go with your gut. You can always look back and come up with something you could have done different/better, don't beat yourself up it. I all to much understand how things can be rough at times. When it seems there is clear sailing ahead you hate to make waves.

JMO

This is kind-of interesting to me because when I first had my DS evaluated I was unhappy with the results and did not believe it was a true picture of DS abilities AND challenges (I was suspecting learning disorder), I immediately inquired about re-evaluated in a year/year and half and that particular place/doctor was completely against it. Of course, it ended u being more than okay because as I researched and learned, etc. I realized the place I had taken him to was simply not a good fit/place and not knowledgeable enough to be able to help with DS. But I just remember how they acted when I brought up the issue of re-evaluating etc. Anyway, weird. Biu perhaps it was my position that they were missing something and/or misdiagnosing that was behind that - they were perhaps simply reacting defensively...

Reading this, my gut reaction says he is interested in her as a sort of "lab rat". Even if he gives away his services (especially if he does!), I wouldn't go through with it...at least not with him.

I'd suspect he's pushing in order to compile a history on her for a research paper or such.

I would say to go with your gut feeling -maybe tell him that you are going to wait and consider doing those things later. Leave the door open, but don't do them now if you don't think it is necessary.

Unfortunately, I think that specialists sometimes start looking for *anything* else that might be wrong once they have addressed the original issue, not out of malice, but just because they want to be thorough.

Also, sometimes things are recommended because they want to rule them out, so that the patient, or patient's parents, don't come back later and say "you didn't tell me such and such…"

I didn't look at your post history, but I wouldn't put a kid through that much testing if I didn't need something for the child, i.e. if it were a normal part of a school's assessment to improve overall performance, or the child's needs were not being met at school.

I find it rather appalling that he didn't respect your wife's first reply and if you do go back in, I'd do it elsewhere--somewhere that they have more respect for your child as a person, and for your family.