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Nothing else constructive to add, just wanted to send you one huge hug, even when we KNOW we're doing the right thing, nothing makes us feel quite so much like a failure as having to walk away from our own crying, pleading child. What? A crying pleading child is evidence that whatever you are doing is working! If it wasn't working, there would be smiles, sunshine, chocolate, more chocolate, some chocolate with sugar flowers, random pretty things, and rainbows. Just like when you pull out an abscessed tooth or break a nose that healed incorrectly, it's supposed to hurt! That means it's working! You can't break an omelet without making some eggs! Or is this a bad analogy?
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Nothing else constructive to add, just wanted to send you one huge hug, even when we KNOW we're doing the right thing, nothing makes us feel quite so much like a failure as having to walk away from our own crying, pleading child. What? A crying pleading child is evidence that whatever you are doing is working! If it wasn't working, there would be smiles, sunshine, chocolate, more chocolate, some chocolate with sugar flowers, random pretty things, and rainbows. Just like when you pull out an abscessed tooth or break a nose that healed incorrectly, it's supposed to hurt! That means it's working! You can't break an omelet without making some eggs! Or is this a bad analogy? My kids thoroughly believed I would leave them in jail if they got arrested. I didn't know this until another mother, in a very disapproving tone shared this with me. She was horrified when I replied, "Good. That'll make them think twice or three times before deciding to following their friends into trouble like little lemmings."
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That's the kind of mom who will be retrieving her precious ones from juvenile detention. Repeatedly.
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That's the kind of mom who will be retrieving her precious ones from juvenile detention. Repeatedly. What's the kind of mom? (not sure what you're referring to)
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Having had one child in each category, I always found the quietly sobbing child more heartbreaking. And I have done my share of peeking though the window after the more spectacular drop offs.
Getting back to the looks from other parents, I always look, but I am trying to channel a supportive, "been there done that, what can you do?" vibe. I think your life might be easier assuming that's what other parents are trying to communicate, if only for your own sanity. Also because the tenser the parent get the more wound up the kid ends up (yep, it is always the mom's fault! can't win that game!!).
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The kind of mom that you describe ABQMom who would move heaven and earth and pay any amount of money to prevent a rightfully-arrested child from spending a minute in detention. My kids also know I will let them suffer some consequences for poor choices. I sure hope they can remember this when poor decision time comes.
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Getting back to the looks from other parents, I always look, but I am trying to channel a supportive, "been there done that, what can you do?" vibe. I think your life might be easier assuming that's what other parents are trying to communicate, if only for your own sanity. I think there should be a hand signal that means "Dude, I have so BTDT. Sympathy vibes."
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Getting back to the looks from other parents, I always look, but I am trying to channel a supportive, "been there done that, what can you do?" vibe. I think your life might be easier assuming that's what other parents are trying to communicate, if only for your own sanity. I think there should be a hand signal that means "Dude, I have so BTDT. Sympathy vibes." LOL 
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Well, she cooperated and pushed me out the door sobbing this morning (no screaming) and was playing happily by the time I got to the parking lot by all reports. Many of the parents have been nice (BTDT, not just pity). One day at a time.
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Well, she cooperated and pushed me out the door sobbing this morning (no screaming) and was playing happily by the time I got to the parking lot by all reports. Many of the parents have been nice (BTDT, not just pity). One day at a time. Yay!
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