Hi Whoopsie -
Glad to hear that the school accepted the GAI. That's a good first step.
Sorry to hear that you are a nervous wreck. Try to learn as much about the situation, the particular program and your child as possible. It may be that the program is a great match for your child, but then again, maybe not. The goal is to get her accomidated, not labeled. The label should help get her what she needs, but it isn't primary.
The only way to know what the school means is to call and ask. You have a right to know. Try and go in with a calm and curious attitude, instead of on the attack or fearing the worst.
If you are like I was, your thoughts run like this.
"Oh, what the school said frightens me. It must be unreasonable for me to be frightened, because the school folks are experienced, and if they tell all the other parents the same thing, and the other parents don't get scared, then there must be something wrong with me."
This is far from the truth. My best guess is that you are different from most other parents (perhaps even the other parents in the gifted program) and way scares you scares you. The school folks are competent and experienced with regular parents, but you are different enough that you have to be in charge of letting them know when they are scaring or confusing you. They probably don't mean to be causing this result. They probably don't know that they are doing it.
From here on out, your responsibility with the school is to 'complete the feedback loop.' If they are doing something that is emotionally upsetting to you or your child, you have to let them know without defensiveness or blame. You just doing your job.
It's ok that you aren't 'usual.' This isn't easy, but it's a great skill to gain.
If I ran a school, I would want a MAP testing in addition to an IQ test because the IQ test tells a lot about a child's potential, while the MAP test tells a lot about exactly what a child is 'ready to learn' right now. In the ideal world, no one would care about IQ scores, they would just pretest all kinds of material, and put each child at their 'readiness-to-learn' level.
Especially with the discrepancy in the working memory part of your daughter's IQ testing, it is important to see if that has given her 'less than expected' academic achievement. Maybe it has, maybe it hasn't.
Go to your school's website and look up as much as you can about the local gifted program and what they are aiming to do.
Learn about the MAP test (It's done on the computer, and every time a child gets a few questions right, it give harder questions. Every time a child gets a few questions wrong, it gives easier questions.) Make sure your child understands that the longer the computer takes to make up it's mind about 'what her level is' the higher she is likely to score. Encourage her to 'just keep plugging.'
Sometimes gifted kids confuse the AI, because they can 'guess right' about things that they never learned, but don't know certain vocabulary that would have been taught along with the lesson if they had actually been taught.So they get a very high level question right on intuition, but miss the next few based on the lack of exposure to special vocabulary. I would give the out that if it's been 3 hours, and the AI is still handing her questions, then it's ok to quit by intentionally saying 'I don't know' a few times in a row. But that's rare.
More about MAP here -
http://www.nwea.org/products-services/assessments/help-all-kids-learnMAP is terrific for advocacy. It's great to ask if the children are group according to the information that results from the testing.
I also like learning about the history of IQ test controversy -
http://www.davidsongifted.org/db/Articles_id_10206.aspxHope that helps,
Grinity