On the one hand, I can see that forcing them to "face their fears" is good. Teaching them to work, etc. has to be positive in some respects, yes?
Except...
I can also remember the tears, etc. when we DID try to force DD to do things "normally" with her hands.
I'm just not sure that it was worth fighting over, years later. After all, she seems to be (finally) developing those skills in her own time
Is it really [i]so wrong to allow kids to use their strengths to shore up their weaknesses like that? Part of me says that it is not; that there is a life lesson to be
learned THERE, too, and that maybe it is just as important as the one about persevering.
Sorry. Even though I feel like I should have an answer for this one (after all, we
have gone through it with DD), I don't
HowlerKarma
I think you summed up my dilemma with the except!!! I see both sides, when we have a good time doing something and he is writing and enjoying it, I feel great. Then when he gets upset getting a thank you note entirely written by a peer, and remembering the big fight doing his own thank yous, I feel like there must be someway to make this different. I think I am just frustrated that we can't make him see that if he devoted an iota of the time he puts to the stuff he loves he would be able to put it into service of what he likes to do.
Or I could just go with he's 5 and it will comes eventually. I read so many other threads and I think maybe if get to the perfectionist thing early we could curb it. Or just bang our heads!!!
I don't need him to be an artist, or a novelist at 5, I just want him to feel confident enough to not feel bad for his asynchrony.
But HK I am not surprised that even living through it there are no no easy answers!!
DeHe
