Hi
So this is going to sounds strange, then maybe not
considering the audience. DS 5 has writing issues - but in the past 6 months has improved enormously with a bit of OT, some redirection from pre-k teacher and oodles of encouragement from us. But he still gets upset that he isn't as good at it as his friends or as he thinks he should be. And he still will choose to not do it, or try to weasel out of it by doing the bare minimum.
He seems to think that you either get it or you don't. We try and try to point out, you used to not be able to this and now you can, every time we find an opportunity. But he always has a reason why writing is different and why he doesn't need to do it. He simply refuses to get that practice will make it better. He isn't like this on anything else. He has no problem being corrected in math or asking for definitions and information. We aren't pressuring him in that he "has" to be able to write a certain way by a certain time or anything like that. Its just that he is typically (although not always) resistant to doing things like cutting or coloring at home, and he does the bare minimum required at school. We do keep emphasizing that he needs to try but he just gets mutinous about it.
There is no way he will get better if he refuses to do it - and part of me thinks of just letting it go, letting school deal with so he doesn't feel badly but on the other hand he seems so frustrated.
So how to change the thinking especially when he will litigate every point? He has made so much progress - to me this is so much about attitude - and he just has me stumped. I don't want to do it because I can't do it but I do want to do it but I don't want to attempt it because I might fail at it.
It seems very issue specific but maybe its not, maybe its the seeds of what happens when he meets physical challenges.
Thoughts?
DeHe
