Thank you for your responses, it helps to see how others are seeing this. The school will not agree to subject acceleration in elementary school. Last year�s grade skip was done against their advice, and we had to sign that we are doing grade skip against the school's recommendations. I could write a whole book on that ordeal, but I am very proud of my husband who stood by me even if not fully understanding the issue, just trusting that I am doing what is best for our child and who now has learned to advocate for our child.
The social factor is the only factor why Ds does not want to do further grade skip. He does not want to be the youngest or the smallest. Right now although he is the youngest, he is still average height among 4th graders. But if we do further skip, he is right, he will be the shortest boy not only in his class, but most likely in the whole school. He loves playing football with other boys, and he realizes that he will be at huge disadvantage there. Although he has not been bullied, �The diary of the wimpy kid� books and movies really have made the fitting in issue a bigger problem.
We have talked about the grade skip and what studying and learning should look like, and we come back to the same issue � his need to fit in socially. It is not that we all do not have this need. I am convinced that is the reason why I have spent my life either studying or working in academia, as it is the only place where I feel that I fit in.
We only have done Explore test and are waiting for the report. For me I see this as a tool when talking to school as well as him. He is waiting for the results as he wants to see a proof that he knows more then he �should know�. This is funny, because this is the boy who the other day wanted to know what school I think he should plan to go, he could not decide between Harvard and Stanford.
