And with four kids to raise- you go super-Mamma! You deserve supportive advice. Speaking of super-Mamma, Grinnity has also let us in on an e-mail service by flylady dot com, which sends many too many e-mails daily to your in-box but you don't have to read them all, just takes a few seconds to delete on your busy days. She sells cleaning products and teaches a rhythm to "blessing your family with a clean house" but she's super inspirational in teaching a different way of doing it so that you're never a martyr. That's been so key. You don't want to be a martyr. Nobody likes a martyr. She'll teach you how not to be. I don't think anybody showed me how not to be and it's been quite useful.
