In my case, I try as much as possible to be proactive. I practiced my reactions before the behavior even started. Once it started, I then practiced it with the child in calm times. Then I repeated the reaction during the behavior. I like to think of it like a fire drill. Learn to be calm before the real fire happens.
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Agreed. Agreed. Couldn't agree more. Learned it from the nurtured heart approach. Not only do I practice my reaction proactively I have began to train ds how he should react and we practice proactively when there's not a problem. The most useful technique TNH teaches. I think cognitive behavior therapy teaches it also. Learn how to react. Teach your kids how to react- not just by modeling. By role-playing. Teach them an appropriate kid reaction just as much as you prepare your own appropriate parent reaction. Like another poster said all this is only good for the next few years. Everything changes. Tip: it's not being FAKE to learn how to present yourself. Somehow that's true.
